my love for my son extends far beyond what i ever envisioned it could be...its one of the most truer loves i could possibly imagine.... positively unconditional....and yet...even with all my love for him...encouraging words from others.....books and cds on how to raise a well rounded child...its seems our daily lives take a toll on the both of us...i forget the inspirational quotes....he sometimes forgets that we're in this together...i'm promising tonight...to take time out every single day...to let him know just how special he is..not just the "i love you"...but to really let him know that he is loved...i dont want him to go a day without knowing just how special he is...and hopefully even at 6 he will listen and absorb it...i love him sooo much :) nite

welcome back...i took a LOOOONG hiatus from blogging mainly because i didnt have much to say...and secondly because i couldnt really keep up....my son and my job started to take over my simple life and i never really had time to just chill and think about ME...

well well well...im back..i have a full week off work and i can't wait to begin all of THIS again...talking about me and my life has always made me happy..mainly because its served as an outlet to my feelings that i may have been hiding from people closets to me...

well on to the good stuff...i was suppose to head to mississippi at day break tomorrow morning but with the snow melting and the freezing temps tonight im afraid there may be black ice everywhere....

yeah yeah..i know..im a scary cat...ive always been one when it came to driving...ive always hated to drive...its just one of those things that i cant be in control of..no matter how much control you THINK you may have..when driving a 2 ton car...you really dont...cars flying by...who knows whose in the car next to you...its always been a fear of mine...i used to let it control my life...until kpp...he was really the main reason that i got my licenses again and started to drive...:) kpp saves the day...AGAIN...lol..oh yeah mississippi..

i feel really bad about not be able to go...i loooove my family soo much..and they love me...AND kpp..and just hate missing out on ALLL the family festivities...although my dad will probably be working..he drives trucks...and my little big brother john will be in kansas with his wife and in laws...i still wanted to go home..and just relax..talk to my grandma.....ooh yeahhh...she gave me a ton of suzzie homemaker stuff when i was down for thanksgiving lol..martha you ask...wellll...she gave me a really nice mixer...ice cream maker...(hmf..i have yet to make ice cream)...magic bullet...something ive wanted for some time now..but didnt want to spend the money on...and some other food processor type of things...i finally took them out of the boxes last week..and tried to organize it all...when i look at the things...i really love her...not because she is generous.but because she really loves me...

i never knew where i got some of my personality traits from...but i now know..a lot of my hard on the outside...sweet on the inside....no holds bars personality..it comes from her...she is such a sweet and loving woman...but you would NEVER know it if you didnt get to know her...she loves hard...like me...so when things dont go the way we plan...we get all flustered....however in her old age..im seeing her more relaxed..and she doesnt really sweat the small stuff like she used to...its really nice to see...im really happy kpp has gotten the chance to meet her and grandpa...they are really loving and sweet and ive always known no matter what...they LOVE me...its an awesome feeling...

oh yeah..mississippi...whenever i got "home" i always feel a bit out of place...although i grew up in mississippi..i never really liked it...hell..i never liked it...i always knew there was more to life...and i knew i wanted to see it...so when my grandparents and aunts would ask me to come and visit them in california..i wouldnt hesitate..id go out there every single summer of my teenage years..and i feel in love with cali...the summers there really changed my life...my aunts would take us EVERYWHERE...and ill never forget the time my uncle took me to venice beach and was seriously on cloud nine! i watched the people alll day long...we walked the boardwalk..and i knew i couldnt live in mississippi forever...i just knew it...HOWEVER...now that im 33 with a 5 year old...i really want to move back....i can't...but i would love it....

i have these dreams about working in mississippi doing the things i love to do.....dreams...they feel soo real some days...then i wake up and im working a job that i really hate...with folks i really like lol...sounds weird?? yeah..ive fallen in love with my coworkers..a lot of them are great folks...but the job itself...I HATE IT..yeah i know..hate is suuuch a strong word..but its sooo true...ive always been a big fish in a small pond..not at this job..i feel like a fish out of water..ooh i know...SOOO DRAMATIC...but its soo true...all day long i wonder if im doing this right..or if im thinking how everyone else is thinking..should i be doing this or that...and im NEVER getting much done...NEVER....im always in my own world....i can't continue on like this...however..im too afraid to just do something new...take the plunge...."maybe one day" i say that to myself every single day...when im driving in...i make a mental list of all the things i should do that day...but by 10am..."huddle time" im spent...i forget the mental list..and by 12pm...i need a break...i go to lunch or out to shop..and come back feeling semi refreshed...by 2pm...im counting down to quitting time..4pm comes..and I HAVEN'T DONE A THING!...its sooo frustrating...yeah i get the things i need to get done..the mundane work...but really reinventing...thinking outside the box...challenging myself more...those things?? i never get around to it...ive come to believe that im too emotional for this type of work...who cares if you don't get your product today...it will be there tomorrow...ive never really cared about the details....so THIS WORK...is NOT for me...waaayyy too detailed-oriented...yeah i lied on my resume..i said i was detail-oriented..but im not...i thought that was a good word...i thought thats what they wanted to hear...so i put it on my resume...silly me...THATS WHAT THEY WANTED..SO THEY HIRED ME! lol....yeah im more of a big picture girl...i live for the emotions of it all...thats how i connect with people...i honestly dont care if things are misspelled...as long as your point is clear...i dont care if your powerpoint is on a snowman background as apposed to a stark blue background..hell i prefer the snowman..shows me you care at least about the seasons lol....yeah im weird i know...but this job...yeah the job...is going to kill me...is killing my spirit and unless i find something OTHER THAN THAT TO DO...im going to die inside...omg..im soo overly dramatic...but im soo honest...i get up every single morning with a love and hate on my mind...i looove my personal life...i love my friends at work..but that work...arrrghhhh i hate it....sooo "one day"....one day ill quit..or ill find a new job at the same company doing something im more passionate about...until then..i guess ill complain about it lol...

oh yeah...this turned into a rant about my disdain for my job...when it was suppose to be a welcome back to blogging..i can't go home..so lets talk about mississippi...i cant sleep at night so lets talk about my dreams...but yeah..it alll comes back to THAT JOB...and how much its really taking a major NEGATIVE toll on my life..

wow little michael jackson is singing on tv..."ill be there" wow..ive always loved that song...i have serious adhd lol...

okay im back.....yeah negativity...i have to stay positive...life is soo good...my personal life is honestly good...no drama...friends...family...yeah no lover..but so...i like it that way..for now...its a nice feeling to be able to come and go as i please without really having to worry about the feelings of someone else...how long will i like it?? im not sure...but because i like it now...things are good...my teeth are white...(i used the crest white strips tonight lol)

....and i feel great...yeah welcome back...hahaha i havea major cause of ADHD but hey....if i didnt..i would be super duper boring! lol....im going to bed...night :)

kpp writes....







he holds his mouth kinda funny lol




he also holds his pencil super funny lol






cute lol






he was concentrating really hard lol





until he saw the camera :)





so he got really happy :)





he is still having trouble with his K's







but he'll get it! :)












i love this kid :)

kpp received his third stripe this afternoon!!!!! are you asking what stripe 3 means? oh you're not? well i'll tell you anyway....my son takes martial arts classes

<------oooh ooh ooh...that would be how he looks...in the "lil dragon" suites...the purple and white...

..but he takes these classes every monday and wednesday afternoon...he has been doing this for about 6 weeks?? now?..he is very new..yet really pretty good...and only FOUR YEARS OLD! :)...his teacher says he is really good when he is focused...so lol im really trying to work with him and his focus skills...

okay..so thats that...back to the stripe...

okay..yeah back to the stripes lol...each class builds on the next..once he learns one set of "things"...kicks..punches..whatever...he gets a stripe...well tonight..he took his third test and remembered everything...well most everything...he gets sooo very distracted..(like his mother lol)....its really kind of funny sometimes..but he did really good..and he knows a lot..he surprises me every single class...i was very very proud of him..im still very proud of him...

today's surprise was that he actually did a "real" jumping jack..his jumping jacks are usually hands flaring and no movement in his lower body! lol...so the fact that he did one tonight..was AWESOME! because no matter how many times ive showed him..he still NEVER does them correctly..well this afternoon..he did...i credit david...the 13 year old boy who has a black belt and who helps with his class....he even did sit ups AND great push ups tonight too!!

he is really doing really well with the class...he has ONE more stripe to go! HE WILL HAVE 4 and on to this next belt! I think the next belt is orange? or green?..not sure yet...lets just focus on getting stripe 4 lol...

yeeeah for kpp! ill upload some pictures from his class soon..

ps....1. when you come up to a person and they say they know karate...NEVER ever just blurt out? "oh you know karate...haaaaaa yaaah!" lol thats corny! 2. never ask a kid "well let me see what you got!" again..corny... 3. oooh and never never never never...just straight up hit a person! because they're reflects are sooo quick...they MAY just hit you back! lol okay...class dismissed...what not to do to a karate kid class 101...

pss...yeah NEVER CALL THEM KARATE KIDS! you know the movie and then sing stupid songs like eye of the tiger...okay seriously..dismissed now...

night!

i made it using a program on wordle.net... cute huh?..come on say its cute...

so my peaceful time is no longer...it all ends tonight.....

i feel like ive been riding in the passenger seat of some luxury sedan...riding down some long seaside road...with the ocean breeze hitting my face..my hair in the wind...listening to some great cd..kpp sleeping in the backseat...the person driving? well it doesnt really matter..its not me...just the way i like it....im laid back as far as my seat can go...thinking of everything good in my life...just riding...my inner most thoughts surrounding me......feeling the love.....loving myself and my son..and maybe that person driving??...maybe.....and riding...riding down freedom drive...smelling the salty ocean smell that we all love...and dozing off into a tranquil slumber....and then BOOM! out of no where... a baracoda runs out...and the driver HITS IT!! lol... yeap...thats how i feel...

ive been doing really good lately..mentally..feeling really good...even..balanced......physically..ive been running around with kpp nonstop..yet not tired.....playing tennis on tuesdays...swimming on thursdays....karate on mondays and wednesdays...and playing and running in living all the time in between....and spiritually..well just knowing that im loved by my god..is enough.....knowing that when i feel a unsteady burst of emotions..that ill be taken care of...that he is holding my hand....yeah ive been feeling really good...and now...well now...my mother is coming back...and noooo i dont think of her as a baracoda...but i do think of her some of the negative energy that has been surrounding me for the last few months...one of the reasons ive been feeling angry and annoyed easier than before...the reasons why i can never seem to finish a project at home...the reasons why i was feeling displaced even in my own home....

see her is the short...my mother did this great thing by coming to live with us for what i assumed would only be for a few weeks..at the most 2 months..while i organized my life financially.....well weeks turned into months... months turned into a year..and now we're dashing to the 18 month mark...she remains here...here..with us....doing whatever it is she does...

for the last month..ive been really relaxed..and living..and being home...and cozy...before then..i NEVER stayed home..i made it my business to leave..and stay gone...while my house was smoked out...although she doesnt smoke in any areas of the house..she smokes in her room..and its a nuisance..i just want my space back..my personal life back..my time and energy at home..i want it alll back....and tonight is the night to tell her everything ive not told her...ive kind of skated around the subject to say the least..hoping she would get the umpf to get her own place..or at least figure out something different...but tonight..on the way from picking her up..we will have the conversation..ive never been a "we need to talk" person...ive always just said what ive wanted to say..but seeing as though this is my mother..and she did a really noble thing in coming to live with us for a "few months" to help with kpp...i should be a little more "feelingly"...so tonight is the night...

i feel sooo good..and honest and open..and my life is really nice...and even..and happier..and i want these feelings to continue...i know once i get home..ill be all upset..because she will say SOMETHING to piss me off...something will be said to 'TRY' and make me feel bad...but it wont...my mother is over 50...decades older than me..a fully capable middle aged woman...its time...if not by her watch...by mine...

all this time ive had to realize that she doesnt do thing initially...maybe she does..but lets assume she doesnt..but uninitially..ive let things take me away from my son..i cant really blame that on her...i let things get out of hand in my "romantic" life......and i let my anger consume me...angry at myself...angry that i would put myself in certain situations...for not preparing more...preparing for things not to happen...preparing for things to happen....but now...its in the past..

i want to experience a brighter future..with more positives..my friends..and loved ones...my friends...well i only have positive people around me these days...unless its those old friends who i just can NEVER seem to shake..but because im used to them lol..im usually the beckon for them..rather them a dark place for me...

but yeah..its time..kpp starts preschool..REAL SCHOOL...as he calls it...in a month...and its time for him to completely have his own space..away from me...no clothes in my closet...no sleeping in my bed because he has to..because the front is just tooo scary...all this...its time..he is a 4 year old H writer lol its time! :)

i feel sooo good tonight..he was in the tub earlier...swimming his little head off..singing and screaming..and this is the sound i want to hear..no tv...no phone...no loud talking..just the two of us...just us...he and i...

**********update**************she didnt come tonight :) lol

tonight i was helping my son write...its my mission in life to create a great student..mainly because i have the soul of a teacher...

well tonight...we were trying to create a composition of cccccsss...ive been trying to get him to write with more control...the way he holds his pencil is weird....the quickness in his handwriting is scary lol...i always hate to see people write really fast...i always know it'll be sloppy....i want him to write with authority...careful and slow...i want him to have great penmanship...but thats some time away...he is only 4 i say...so i let it all go and i stop critiquing him for a minute..and we begin to write cs again...at first they were just scribbles on the paper..as i instructed him to go "slllooooowwwlly"...the writings of the cs became better....and then out of no where...

MY SON...myyyy son...begin to write three little lines...an H..he says...i screamed!! i was amazed!....not that I didn't think he would ever learn to write..i screamed because it was as if he was holding something from me!..it was his little surprise for me...he knew how to write the perfect H! and he said with conviction.."look mommie...an H..." as if this H meant absolutely nothing to him...he did it again...and again...i screamed each time he did it...he began to write them just to see if i would scream..we were both all smiles...my son..the h'er...:)..it was almost as if he knew that writing the H would lighten up the mood...he loves the letter H he said...and begin to write it more..i laughed and hugged him...

after the laughter and hugs subdued...we began to write other letters of the alphabet...and there wasn't a lot of omg's or oooohs and aaaahhss..so he made an H again...and then said.."are you happy again?!" and I screamed out...I looooove all of your letters! they allll make me happy!..and at that moment..he wrote an X! :) the same x i'd tried to get him to write 20 times 20 minutes ago...i was happy AGAIN...so i hugged him AGAIN..and loved him for about 4 seconds..until he realized i was having a moment lol..and he quickly pulled away...

my son is growing up..and although i looove seeing him become this great little kid..who knows me waaay too well....and can recall every movie he has every watched..lol...but i miss the very small hands and toes he used to have before his walking days began.....

nights like tonight make me take life "slllooooowwwlly"...and remember to write about my happiness..IM HAPPY AGAIN

im really geeked about getting this new place...

NOW I HAVE TO PACK!! :)

but man im sooo happy...here are some of the pictures...check them out...


bathroom...didnt get a really good picture of this...but i see lots of potential! :)very nice and airy..i see it being yellow with touches of nice silver accents :)


dinning room....cant really tell from the picture...but this is a very nice sized dinning room...i can see a bigger table going in it...so now what will i do with my table i raved about?? who knows! lol


this is the old maintenance man George...man! i see sooo much i will do with this area...put some nice flowers here...and there..and two huge pictures....really cute!


some little shelves..really cute...i see alot of my vases and "pretty things" going on these shelves!! :)


the kitchen was still in a slight mess..but i see its potential as well..im happy about it...i see my little herbs in the windowseal...just really cute...some little grass growing...going to be reallly cute!!


i thought his room was a little bigger..but oh well...i guess the first time we went i was soo overwhelemed i didnt measure out the space properly lol






nice large living area...really nice....my couch WONT be the focal point of my living space..man i cant wait to get some nice colorful pictures..man its going to be soo pretty...


the small study..yeees you heard right...a quiet little study...nice large windows...and i can see myself reading or doing this (typing on my blog) looking out the window!! to a very very cute window box full of little flowers!! man i cant wait to move in!!!



this is my room...alittle bigger than i thought it was...which makes me happy :) and you may or not be able to see..the cedar closet...so that makes two nice sized closets in my room :)...lol im trying not to think of anything to do to my room yet...because i will start buying all kinds of stuff...so im going to wait til i finish kpps rooms to start on mine...


okay im done raving about this place...now to the packing...ill start alittle tonight...and then start pulling things out of the closet...and surveying all the things i have and the things i dont...start on yet another list..and just daydream about my new place :) i cant waaaiiitt!!!

THANK YOU GOD..ive prayed about something new coming in my life..and ive been really patient and im happy you saw fit to make this apartment the new little thing :)...thank you

do you like it??

wtf? MAN WHYYY??!!!....I CONTINUE TO SEE SHIT LIKE THIS WTF??!!! MAN K. COLE...WHY ARE YOU POSING WITH THIS LAME? you aint that cute..but damn this fool makes you look hooooott!!!! or equally as lame! lol which is it?...then this person has the nerve to be throwing up the westside? give me a damn break! ahahahahahahaha!!

I threw up in my mouth alittle bit! ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww....damn!!!!! i just looked at that picture again!

why do people continue to be over ignorant lol with their style...the acrylic fingernails but just on two fingers? keep your damn hands in your pockets fool!! give me a damn break man!! hahahaha WTF is this? a man or a woman??!!! ....

oh my goodness..my hostility is shining through today..i was going to try and control it.until i saw this damn picture!!!

DAMN! my people gotta do sooo much better than this shit lol...oh my goodness!! the fingernails?? whyy?? JUST FUGLY....(FOR YOU FOLKS THAT DONT KNOW..THAT MEANS FUCKING UGLY!)...

or should i say H.A.M. (hot ass mess!)...YEAH LETS JUST SAY...HONEYBAKED H.A.M!

these are some pictures from that biggie release party from the other night...damn all these folks there..and MTA is acting a damn fool? how they get there? walk? hahah wtf? people will do anything for some hot music and some drink and smoke!

i donno but damn can someone say exploiting?? lol..at first it was puffy...we all kinda expected that fool to be out for the papa...but now this nicca big's momma? lol damn...i hope when i die and my moms is still alive..so that she can somehow exploit me to get that money...maybe that folder on my computer labeled private will do it for her hahaha lol

yeah check these pics out from the party... click if you want them bigger..




this nicca benzino lol?! why are you there! fat joe..you need to be home collecting money to give to big puns wife...babs? ummm where you at? can i hear a cd? i thought her and other dude from making of the band was gonna be like "bonnie and clyde" (puffs words not mine!) lol...

i wasnt going to say shit about big's momma but damn...i cant even stand to look at her anymore...but i guess if kpp was a famous rapper and i knew everyone loved him i would do it! NOOOOOT! be serious!

gimmie da loot! gimme da loot! hahahaha! damn i miss biggie

okay..i think i need to clear some things up about my blog... (now if you dont know what im talking about...then im not talking to you lol)

okay..i think my blog lately has been misunderstood by some folks..they seem to think ive been talking about them.... WTF?

if i havent said anything to you...I WASNT TALKING ABOUT YOU..
if i havent said i dont love you no mo'..THEN DAMN I LOVE YOU BOO! LOL...WE STILL PEOPLES! SHIT!
if i havent said you make me sick..JUST KNOW YOU ARE ON MY GOOD SIDE!
if i havent said im talking about you...JUST KNOW..IM NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU! GEEEEZZZ!!

im a poet..i write poetry..i write poems about love..i write poems about love lost...i write about my past present and future love...
i write about my friends..past and present...
i write about my situations...
i write about my sunshine...

damn man give me a break..stop writing shit on your blog about me...if you have something to say...tell me fool!!!...before i let "sho yah"..line yo ass up with the other COMPLAINING ASS biotches and slap the shit outta you for me!!!...stop with all the vague mentions of conversations we have had..YOU SUCK!..i was trying to be happy with you...but now i see...yo ass will never really be happy..no matter what i do...or dont do...no matter how many conversations i listen to...no matter how much attention i give you! damn..you suck!!!...get happy from within..and if im not the friend you need...drop me like a bad habit!..damn i hate people...(didnt i already say this shit today!!!)...i hate people!!!...

i cant make you happy...i cant be a better friend...i'm me..im who i am the first day you meet me..i will be who i am when this relationship is over! damn get a grip...i hate reading folks blogs and its some vague ass interpretation of something i said on my blog..and it doesnt have shit to do with you in the first place...

take my blog for what it is...my thoughts..my life...not something between me and you..unless i give yo punk ass a shout out!...cause 100% of the time..if ive written it on my blog...you heard it from me first...

so stop your drama...if i have beef with you..if i dont like you anymore..i will tell you...if i have an issue with you..shit i will let yo ass know! damn i hate yall biotches on these blogs!! they shouldnt have ever made this shit hahaha!!! yes they shouldve..so i dont have to cuss yo ass out today!! hhhaahaha...i can just type it on my blog! lol



okay truce? truce!..DAMN FREAK!

damn..why dont people realize that the grass aint greener on the other side...SHIIIITT!!!!

if you love someone stick with them..be patient...communicate what you want and need...especially if your mate is a good person...

why does everyone always think its greener??!!!!!??? I DONT!..but then again..who is weird like me...i always have stuck with what ive had.....especially when that shit is great!

so to all you complaining bitches (men and women! cause men can be bitches too!)...your new year's resolution needs to be this....

1. STOP FUCKING COMPLAINING ABOUT WHO YOU ARE WITH!

2. IF YOU DONT LIKE THEM...LEEEEAVVEEE!!!

3. IF THEY ARENT GOOD IN BED...STOP TELLING ME! LEAVE!

4. IF THEY DONT LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU NEED AND DESIRE TO BE LOVED..LEAVE!!

5. IF THEY WATCH TOO MUCH DAMN REALITY TV AND YOU WANT TO BE OUTSIDE..LEAVE!!

6. IF THEY HAVE FAKE NAILS AND BAD WEAVES..AND YOU THAT SHIT!! LEAAAVEEE!

7. IF HE/SHE IS A DEAD BEAT PARENT! LEAVE!...BECAUSE CHANCES ARE..IF YOU EVER HAVE A BABY TOGETHER! THEY WILL BE DEADBEATS!!

8. IF THEY TALK TOO DAMN MUCH..AND YOU WANT SIIILLLEEENNNCEE (LIKE MARTIN USED TO SAY)...LEAVE!!!!

9. IF THEY DONT COOK FOR YOU AND YOU WANT A HOME COOKED MEAL WHEN YOU GET HOME! LEAVE!

10. AND FINALLY! IF THEY ARENT LOVING YOU RIGHT...IF THEY DONT HOLD YOU RIGHT...IF THEY ARENT SEXING YOU RIGHT..IF THEY ARENT GIVING YOU ORAL LOVING (FOR MEN AND WOMEN) HAHAHA ...IF THEY ARENT HOLDING YOUR HAND AND KISSING YO ASS (AND YOU ON THAT LOVEY DOVEY SHIT)...PLEASE DO ME A FAVOR IN THE NEW YEAR....STOP CALLING ME COMPLAINING ABOUT IT!! LEAVE!!!!!!!



DAMN IM ANGRY TODAY HAHAHA BUT IM SICK OF MY FRIENDS CALLING ME TELLING ME ABOUT THEIR FUCKED UP REALTIONSHIPS BUT ARENT GOING ANNNYYYWHERE...BE HAPPY IN WHAT YOU HAVE...BE HAPPY THAT HE/SHE IS THERE...BE HAPPY..AND BE PATIENT..SO WHAT...IF HE DOESNT COOK FOR YOU..BUT HE LOVES YO ASS DOWN AND COMES HOME AT NIGHT WITH GREAT CONVERSATION..(FACE IT..HE ISNT A GOOD COOK!)...LOL..SO WHAT...IF SHE DOESNT LIKE SPORTS..BUT SHE COOKS THE HELL OUT OF SOME COLLARD GREENS AND CORNBREAD W SO WHEN THE GAME IS OVER..YALL CAN EAT!...(FACE IT...SHE AINT A SPORTS FAN LIKE ME! NICCA!)..

DAMN MAN! I SWEAR! SHUT THE FUCK UP!! IN THE NEW YEAR! QUIT THAT COMPLAINING SHIT!!!!!!

BEACUSE DAMN IF YOU HAVE SOMETHING GOOD..WORK AT IT...EVERYDAY AINT PEACHES AND CREAM...BE PATIENT..AND AFTER BEING PATIENT AND LOVING..AND SHIT STILL AINT GOING THE WAY YOU WANT IT...BE AN ADULT AND GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP THE RIGHT WAY..NO CHEATING..NO LYING..JUST BOUNCE.....AND STOP CALLING ALL OVER GODS CRATION TELLING EVERYONE HOW FUCKED UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS!! CAUSE 9 TIMES OUT OF 10..HE/SHE AINT DOING WHAT YOU ANT BECAUSE OF YOU!...(DID YALL HEAR THAT? IF HE/SHE AINT GIVING IT..ITS BECAUSE YO ASS AINT GIVING IT..IF SHE DONT COOK...ITS PROBABLY BECAUSE SHE FEELS UNDER APPRECIATED..YO ASS NEVER CLEAN THE KITCHEN! OR SAY THANKS...IF HE DOESNT BUY YOU NICE THINGS...MAYBE ITS CAUSE YOU A GOLDIGGER AND HE KNOWS THE SHIT HAHAH...IF SHE DOESNT WEAR LINGERIE..MAYBE ITS BECAUSE ALL YOU DO IS SNATCH IT OFF OF HER ANYWAY..WHATS THE POINT REALLY..YOU DONT LOVE HER SLOW HOW YOU 'POSE TO HAHAHA (im soo grammatically challenged lol but hey im from Mississippi lol)...YEAH MAN DAMN..STOP COMPLAINING...

HAHAHA IM DOCTOR PHIL IN THIS PIECE! IM OUT!!!

ive known for many years now that ive walked alone in this life..

but not until tonight was i forced to apprehend the truth as it continued to flee from me...

this truth collided with my fantasy that THIS love is everlasting and would always remain right beside me...

holding my hand ever so tightly...

im rejoicing tonight that i have been given the opportunity to multiply....

I never knew just how much i would need my sunshine....

to help me through this array of blacks and grays...

i knew that one day this would all come to past...

but i ducked and dodge the obvious...

and tonight after all has been said and done...

this has been my hearts ultimate calamity...

ive walked this road soooooooo long alone..and i never once thought id have to continue with MYSELF by my side.

im sorry i couldnt be the person you dreamed...

and im sorry after all my begging and pleading that you wont recognize just who i am...

and let our paths reconnect and encounter this special love again...

the truth has manifested itself soo painstakingly obvious to me...

i cant be your accomplice in this persevering task we call life...

im forever in your debt for keeping me abundantly whole at my darkest midnight hour..

thank you..

forever..

i am melancholy but i still say thank you....

forever was always something i said with ease...

because my love for you was never blindsided by obstacles...

or pushed aside with life's lessons...

but tonight i know forever is just that...

FOREVER ALONE IN LOVE......

Question??????????????
What do say? When an e-mail is sent to you by the only woman that you have EVER love for almost 10 years.

I'm giving you 5 months to straight whatever it is that you gots to get straight. Then I'm moving there and we getting married and having a baby I don't need you to agree or disagree. Because we been playing this game to long and you love me and I love you.

Now to the Fellas:
What do you do if you get this from the female that youve always loved?
Do you respond to this email?
Do you respond to the woman that you have talked to almost everyday for 10 years or do you just ignore the e-mail completely?

And Ladies:
Is this something that you would ever send to the man that you've loved almost 10 years?

This is really an important question that I need an answer to. So leave your comment or instant message me, if you the shy type.

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damn i think i just read the blog of the fucking year lol....i read this guys blog off and on alot...and today i read him describing what a sexy is to him..

so umm ive decided ill do the same....in the dicitionary sexy is

1. Arousing or tending to arouse sexual desire or interest.
2. Slang. Highly appealing or interesting; attractive:


to me...sexy is....

* when you lay your head in my lap and look up at me...and we communicate without word

* when i can cook for you...and YOU do the dishes...

* (now this one may be alittle confusing) when im walking down the isle of the grocery store and i stop in front of you...and you run into me...cause you acting like you didnt see me stop...just to feel my bootie lol...

* when i smell you on my jacket..because before i went to work..you hugged me tight...and all day i smell your love around me....oooooooooooh sexy..cause damn..you smell soo good!

* when i have on a low cut top and you look at me and say "put those up..those are for me" lol...hahaah sexxxxyyy!!! lol (that really happened to me..)

* when you come over with fresh new hair..lordie! thats soo sexy...like wow..you look sooo good!

* that night you came home early to find me in the bed reading..and you came right in..didnt disturb me...you just kissed me, laid down..and when i started to talk..you said...no baby finish reading "i dont want to disturb you"....and went to sleep...(see thats soo sexy..because you know i love you..you know i care...i know you love me...i know you care....and you are okay with me doing my own thang...you understand that reading makes me happy...so you gave me what i needed...those lips..and a "im going to bed baby...i love you"....and you went to sleep..did i say sexxxxy!!!)

* its when you know i have a child..yet you love him even more because he looks just like me lol......(now if this aint the sexiest thing...)

* (this is a better one)...when we were in the mall and someone said...your child is soo handsome....(eventhough he is MY child)...you just smiled kept walking (never mentioning that he wasnt ours....sexxxxxyy!!!)

* when we are riding down the street and you look over and say..."i love you" just because...but you dont get mad when i dont say it back...because shit we all know you got my heart...all i need to do is look at you and smile..cause that means waaay more than words...

* when you kiss me on my forehead cause im sick..you dont want to catch what i got..but you gotta be kissing me...yeah thats seeeexy lol...makes a sista feel extra good...

* oh yeah..when you cook for me..and take care of me..when im sick...(oooh thats soo sexy...makes me want to give you my germs and have sex right there...cause you already know when you get sick i am going to do the same for you...sooooo sexy!)

* when ive cooked something that i thought was soo good...(and it really wasnt)...you dont look at me twice while eating it...you say..."this isnt that good baby...but i love you"...ooh sexy! cause momma always trying some new receipe lol

* you know on that saturday when there is nothing to do....well you go in your "small" book collection..and we read together..you read to me..i read to you..

* when im shopping for clothes and you come in the "womans" store with me..and watch me try on clothes...thats sooo sexy..cause who cares about those other women...you are with me...

* when you are shopping for yourself..but you want me to go...because you want my opinion on what looks good on you...oooooooh thats soo sexy...

* its really sexy..if i come home and you are there laying in bed waiting for me...ooh thats really sexy..cause i know what may happen...

* when i can just put my head on your shoulder cause ive had a bad day..and you dont try and fix it..you just let me talk...tell me "you got me" thats sooo sexy

* when i check my messages....and all i hear is..."i love you"..and you hang up...because what more needs to be said....man damn..thats sooo sexy....

* oooh sexy is when you in the bathroom..and you just gotta talk to me...so you open the door because you didnt want to be alone..hahaa...(yeah thats nasty but thats when you know you love someone)

* i said me cooking for someone is really sexy...but when you come in the kitchen and say "babe what do you need me to do" yeah that shit is ultra sexy...cause yeah im cooking..(but i think i smell the bread burning! lol)

* its when we are laying in bed together..and you want me on you...you want my hands on you..you want my body on you...and when i fell like i may crush you lol cause ima big girl..you say......"i got you.." (now didnt i say i was a big girl....so if you say this..you better have me lol)

* sexy is when i have noooo money..and neither do you...yet we still find a way to be happy...playing uno! or some board game lol..thats soo sexy...and boring lol

* sexy is when....im scared at home alone..and you call me..to make sure im okay..thats not only sexy..but its soo nice to know that you love me...

* its that night i came home late from work...and you were there waiting for me..with dinner....(eventhough your dinner consist of french fries and a hot pocket!) thats soo sexy!

* oh yeah..when i walked out without giving you a kiss and you call me or text me..and say...you didnt kiss me today..that means i need extras when i see you later! lol seeeesxxxxyyyyy!!!

* and finally...when i lay in the bed..and you lay right beside me..and tell me your fears...your dreams...and how you want me to be there through them all..yes lord..now thats sexy!!!!




yeah i know..this is soo nice...but most of it has never happened to me...but the stuff that has..i think its soo sexy....i think its sooo nice..the hot pocket and french fry dinner thing...i made that up..but thats something yall would do lol..say i made you dinner baby! lol and its a damn hot pocket and fries lol....but shit thats sexy..cause i couldve come home..and had an air sandwich! lol....

so yeah someone who is sexy all over...and who appreciates me..and in turn i will appreciate them..and give them that sexy side of me..that i dont show anyone...yeah thats sooooo sexy lol...damn if i say sexy one more freaking time lol...

night

oooh i have been slacking on my blog lately..i found that yahoo 360 blog..and its soo cool and easy...to get connected...listen to me..i sound like a damn commerical..but that ish is pretty cool...i was on it last night for like 2 hours looking at different people...

yeah yeah yeah...about my weekend...lol i wrote about it on my "other blog" damn i love that 360...

but anyway i was asked to come up to cleveland for christmas by my second mom and her sisters...

and i was just thinking...damn kpp has a father...whom im not with..but yet its still his father and who is active in his life...okay...so...i dont have a life...i never do anything for chirstmas...maybe go to my familys house...we didnt last year because of the big snow storm...but my question is...can i really take kpp out of town for christmas?? his father is here in town...would that be right?...and then im thinking...do families have this debate all the time?? like where will the child be for christmas?....is that fair to dad?? but then i think about it like this...when will i ever be able to do something? his family and friends live in this city...i dont have family here...so whenever i want to go out of town for a holiday...what will happen?...will i always decline so my son will have both parents for holidays??...its really sad when i think about it...i wish things could be different..but they arent...this is what they mean on the today show when they say things like..yeah you arent married but it seems like you have gotten a divorce....i dont know what to do...i would really like to go up there for christmas..i havent spent a christmas with them in years..but on the other hand...is it mean?...when do i get to live my life?? when kpp can choose which parent he wants to stay with when?? or is that wrong too? like making a child choose?...its wild...and damn it makes me sad to think...i put my baby boy in this situation...by not thinking before i act...

ok..so thats the question..is it wrong to take your child out of town on holidays...when his father is active in his life??...so like his father will miss out on his christmas...or like corey said...we will celebrate christmas before christmas.....i donno..corey said nothing is wrong with it...my friend girl said...i didnt ask to be a single parent...i mean yeah..no but this was a consequence when i laid down..that this shit could happen...we werent together...so ummm..lol..right...

okay again i ask...is this wrong? or just a fact of life? when two people arent together...and they have a child??

i was told by my uncle and stepmom friday that my little cousin has a brain tumor...its not malignant...nor it is an AVM...which are both good things...but it is inoperable...

having children is suuuch a great thing...its suuch a great experience...but i tell you...this is the only downfall...worrying...praying that nothing happens to them...i love kpp soo much...and i pray daily that he is safe with the Lord watching over him...especially when we aren't together...

here he is...i couldn't resist not showing him any longer lol...last week was the last warm week....its back to jackets and jeans...so i decided i would take the camera to the park with us....wow...i got some good shots...especially the last one! lol...with him crying looking up to the heavens hahahaa...he is suuuuch a character!!!




kpp looking like a big boy...it was rather surprising when i put this outfit on him...he looked like he was 3 or 4...odd what clothes can do...



and this red hat...i just turned it to the back..not knowing that he would look sooo dang cute hhahaha!!!





okay night...i have to finish watching the bengals!!...im hoping they win it tonight!..damn i cant believe im rooting for the bengals! lol this is hilarious!!

so ummm nikki wants to be featured on my blog...

she wants me to talk about what good things she does...
she wants me to talk about what bad things she does...
she wants me to talk about how on thursdays because its her day off (ummm and because i dont have a job) we hang out....
she wants me to talk about her...

so ummm what should i say??

she is...ummm my friend...simply put...

i guess she wants me to tell some elaborate tale of mystery or how we yell at little kids while driving by (well that was me lol but you get my drift)...
or how we laugh sooo hard that my stomach starts to hurt...and i see her change into the mean "white girl" (well she doesnt know thats what i call it...but i guess once she reads this she will..lol)

i guess she wants me to tell you guys how i looooove nerds and geeks (her being a nerd) and i befreind them because i love them...because they teach me something new everyday...
i donno...i guess she wants me to discuss how "white" she is to me...
shit i donno what she wants me to say....so ill say this...

YOU MADE IT TO MY BLOG!....you are my favorite suburan, oreo cookie, catholic, proper talking, little white girl...(in a black chicks body lol)..YOU ARE NOW BLOG FAMOUS!!!